What is with some parents? I certainly don’t want this blog to come across as me all high and mighty telling parents what I think they should do, but when you see balent disregard for Children’s safety in suburban everyday life, you just feel so overwhelmed with anger you don’t know what else to do.
While driving along the highway today I looked over at the car beside me to a woman casually eating an apple, then when I looked again I noticed some movement in the passenger’s seat, at first I couldn’t believe what I was seeing, so looked again and sure enough her toddler (I estimate 2 years old) was out of his car seat standing with his hands out the window. The mother was just driving along ignoring the child. In the ten minutes I followed alongside I didn’t see her talk to her son, or tell him off, she just looked ahead, eating her apple!
We were both driving at 80 km, I couldn’t believe it. If she had to slam on her breaks for any reason that little boy would have flown into the window.
While talking about the incident on twitter I was flooded with comments about how others see balent disregard for child safety on the daily basis.
How hard is it to keep our children safe?
Belting your children in has been ingrained into us since I was a little girl, I never go anywhere without belting up and the same goes with my child. Why would you teach a child not to belt in? Have you seen what a small crash does to a child that wasn’t belted in............. I can tell you it isn’t pretty and 9 times out of ten the child loses their life. Why would you even tempt it?
I was appalled to also hear about parents taking their children to the beach when we had a tsunami warning. How could you risk your life and your children’s like that? People argue it was a false alarm but isn’t that a little like crying wolf? It may not always be a false alarm and we have warnings to protect us and save human life.
I would have to say these acts of stupidity are basically “neglect”. If you do see these acts of downright neglect with children then I suggest you report them, how else is the message going to get through. If their own parents can’t be responsible then we as responsible humans will have too.
While on holiday at a cafe I had the chance to witness a mother and father with their daughter sitting at the table beside us. As you do you look over everyone and sip and drink coffee. I witnessed the child take a bite from her muffin and slam, it down and say yuck. She was around 5 or 6 years old.
Her mother tried to convince her to eat more, coaxing her, everything she could think of, there was a little bit of bribing going on. Then the father got involved and demanded she eat it, where she squared her shoulders puffed up and said no! Mother then got up and went to the counter and brought another flavour and offered it to the young girl. She grabbed the muffin had a little bite and then said no. I watched both parents sit back. They both looked at each other and shrugged their shoulders.
The little girl kept demanding stating she was hungry and dad said “you have two muffins to choose from” in which little miss went bright red and yelled “No” I then watched mum convince her daughter to then go up and choose something she would like and the little girl hopped up and went and looked at the counter and she then chose a pie.
I instantly wanted to jump up and tell the parents off! What are they teaching their child, they may have had 5 minutes peace and quiet but they have just instilled a life time of conflict. Now their daughter knows exactly how to get what she wants. The same situation will happen over and over again and the parents are going to wonder how their daughter got away with so much.
When you child reached the age of 2-4 years they push the boundaries, it is then they learn what they can and can’t get away with.
Never give in, you are the adult, yes they wear you down, yes they drive you crazy but you have to be stronger.
My daughter was incredibly strong minded, she would fixate on something and that would be it. Shopping suddenly became a nightmare and she would tantrum every time we went shopping. Supermarkets are a nightmare, she would grab items and want them and I was forever saying no and by the time I got to the check out, I had half a trolley of food and a screaming little girl and I was a mess.
I did everything, I tried everything and there was no avail, I decided to get her looked after while I went shopping just to solve the problem.Then I wised up, what was I doing, I was the adult and she was the child and in life you just can’t have everything you want, so I prepared myself and off we went.
We got to the second ilse and she saw a marshmallow rope hanging on the side of the isle, she grabbed it before I could intervene, both of us were holding an end of the rope and I strongly stated “no you can’t have this” she took one look at me and screamed! You should of seen all the old ladies suddenly appear in the isle! I told her why she couldn’t have it and she screamed louder. I suddenly had onlookers and I got very embarrassed, strangers asking me if I’m ok. Then I snapped I let go of the rope and in a loud voice said “it’s not fair, I want everything in the store and I can’t have it” I stomped my feet “ I want lollies, I want ice-cream,, I want, I want, I want!” I opened my eyelid to see her starring at me! I jumped to the floor kicking my feet and arms! “I want this and I want that, its not fair!
It was then that a small little hand grabbed my hand and said” Come on mummy, it’s ok” she helped me to a sitting position and said “Sometimes we can’t have things” I was blown away!
It was an incredibly embarrassing act on my part, I had about 20 onlookers, some where unimpressed with my outburst but some patted me on the back. My daughter never had a tantrum after that.
It is hard to stay strong to your child who you love and adore but some things you have to be firm on. If you say no mean no, never change your mind.