Being a single parent is usually not a choice you make; it is a choice that can be forced on you.
My parents spilt up when i was young and the mistakes my parents made i swore i would never make. They hurt each other with their bickering and name calling, and it only ever hurt us kids.
When i became a single parent i made a promise that i would NEVER say a bad word about my daughters father. I swore that i would make sure that we were a family unit, or as close as we could be.
This included (while my daughter was young) having family holidays together, talking each week on phone to discuss week events and always including her father in conversations.
I always told my daughter about her father’s good traits, always told the funny stories of what we got up too. Even though we as a couple didn’t work out, there were a lot of things we did together.
As a couple you were in love once, telling stories about your life before children helps them feel grounded and connected to you both.
Of course i know not everyone can do this due to all sorts of circumstances. Just always remember your child knows they are part of you both so if you bag their father essentially you are bagging them.
Make a rule and stick by it.
These were mine ( i hope they help )
1. Never say bad things about him in ear shot of child
2. Always talk about the good times
3. Weekly updates, Sunday at 7pm
4. Never stand in the way of him seeing child
5. Your child is the most important, always be accommodating and negotiate
6. Include him in your life, invite him to all child events.
My parents spilt up when i was young and the mistakes my parents made i swore i would never make. They hurt each other with their bickering and name calling, and it only ever hurt us kids.
When i became a single parent i made a promise that i would NEVER say a bad word about my daughters father. I swore that i would make sure that we were a family unit, or as close as we could be.
This included (while my daughter was young) having family holidays together, talking each week on phone to discuss week events and always including her father in conversations.
I always told my daughter about her father’s good traits, always told the funny stories of what we got up too. Even though we as a couple didn’t work out, there were a lot of things we did together.
As a couple you were in love once, telling stories about your life before children helps them feel grounded and connected to you both.
Of course i know not everyone can do this due to all sorts of circumstances. Just always remember your child knows they are part of you both so if you bag their father essentially you are bagging them.
Make a rule and stick by it.
These were mine ( i hope they help )
1. Never say bad things about him in ear shot of child
2. Always talk about the good times
3. Weekly updates, Sunday at 7pm
4. Never stand in the way of him seeing child
5. Your child is the most important, always be accommodating and negotiate
6. Include him in your life, invite him to all child events.
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