When a child is born, they have a strong cup filled to the brim. Full.
As years go by and that child gets older situations around them knock the cup around.
All big situations effect the cup.
Parents divorce ............... The cup chips
Parents fight.......................The cup chips
Each chip can be healed with love, patience, understanding and time. The liquid inside the cup can be replaced. Chips can be fixed.
Parent beats child................... The cup cracks
Parent tortures child.................The cup cracks
Parent sexually abuses child.................The cup smashes.
The child cannot fill the cup because every time they try the liquid leaks out.
There is nothing more painful in a child's life than having a cup that is smashed. A child doesn't have the tools to fix their own cup.
When i child has nothing inside the cup they feel lost. They dont know who they are. They have no trust. They are empty and they spend the rest of their life trying to fix the cup and fill it.
As they grow they try different ways to fix the cup, some try to stick a plaster, some try to buy a new cup........... but nothing but healing slowly will heal the cup.
Some heal but no crack is fully fixed. Sexual abuse leaves the cup weakened........... the joins can get stronger but there is always bits that never heal.
Sexual abuse is Rampant in New Zealand. It is a silent killer......... it kills souls~
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